Okay, I know the 13th General Election in Malaysia is coming, but this post is not related to the election at all.
I had Medical Ethics class yesterday. It was the first class, before this there were only lectures. So being in class, we were in a smaller group and we had the chance to talk and discuss. Some of us had to present a topic regarding ethics pertaining to medicine.
The first topic was about favouritism. The situation was about a doctor treating a member of his family first; favouring his own relative to the patients who have been waiting in line. The relative came later than the patients so he kind of cut the queue.
The second topic was about a medical student being too close to a patient. The student was doing summer elective so he had much free time so he decided to just talk with patients. The patient was an old woman and apparently, she has been abandoned by her own son, so she was lonely. The patient told the student about her personal life. And when the assisting doctor knew that the student was getting too close with the patient, the doctor scolded the student saying that it’s not appropriate to do so.
The third situation was about a doctor scolding and yelling at a patient in front of a group of medical students for not bringing the X-ray report. This topic was discussed thoroughly and it was partly about professionalism. Some also commented that probably the doctor was “old school” , that is, some doctor believes that he/she knows best and is always right or thinks that doctors are more superior than patients.
And the fourth topic was about the healthcare system. One of the example was, should a doctor prescribe the expensive drug knowing that the drug is good for the patient although the healthcare system has put some limitation of the usage of the drug. Something like that.
So, what are all these have got to do with the title of my post? Well, actually my lecturer mentioned this phrase when we were discussing about the third topic. I personally think that it is a really good phrase.
You see, people who are intelligent don’t show that they are intelligent. People who are talented in something don’t show that they are talented in something. People who are humble, don’t show that they are humble.
The word ‘show’ here is leaning more towards ‘show-off’ rather than just show or act.
In contrast, people who ‘think’ that they are pretty and want to be known as pretty, will try as best as they could to look pretty and show off to the world. Be it an inch-thick of make up, or immodest clothing (this is due to the fact that showing-more-skin-is-pretty’ mentality nowadays) they would do that in order to show off to the world that they are pretty.
Some people tried so hard to look rich, even though they are not.
Some people tried so hard to look or sound cool and show off to the world. The place where you can see the simplest example for this is the social networking site eg. Facebook and Twitter. It has became a phenomenon nowadays to show off everything on Facebook or Twitter. If not “look what I just bought” then it will be “hanging out with my peeps at ….” or posting photos of your face everyday showing off what make up you wear today, what clothes you wear today, what shoes and what handbag and the list goes on.
I also, personally think that some of these people (who are showing off etc) are people who feel insecure about themselves. It could be. They feel that they are not pretty enough, so they have to try hard to look pretty and show it to people. They think people don’t see they are rich enough so they have to look rich and show off. It might sound lame but these are the only easy but obvious examples I can think of right now.
The fundamental people need to know is- Who do you want to impress? What matters most to you? As for me, of course it is not the society or my friends or anyone else whom I need to impress but it is God I need to impress. God won’t matter how you look outside, but He looks at your heart. And I think I need to improve myself on this. I need to strengthen this belief because sometimes, I too, do feel like I need to impress people.Well it’s not wrong sometimes but if that thought is always fed, than it will get dominant. And I do not want that to happen. I want to be myself. I don’t want to change in order to get people to like me. But then again this doesn’t necessarily mean that I don’t have to improve at all. There has to be balance in everything.
Phewh, I never thought that I would write all of these but since it has been on my mind since yesterday, so it has to be stored somewhere. Besides, I need a reminder about this and I need to be more positive. I don’t know if this is just one of my defense mechanism against being inferior XD
So, not showing off is basically what I want to stress about here. And just be yourself. Allow people to accept you as who you are. You will be safe and the world would probably be a better place if everyone acts accordingly. Be just. Be fair. Be humble. Be positive.